In an article written on tinybuddha.com by yoga teacher, Michelle Uy, she shares with us a recent struggle where she allowed her thoughts to take over and create a false reality in her relationship. As she and her boyfriend were deciding to take the next step and move in together, negative thoughts of change, compromise and regret clouded her mind and led her to believe that they would fail when the time came to figure out a cohesive life of togetherness and a new routine. As Michelle is more aware than most people that negative thoughts are powerful and can be detrimental in some situations, she began to do what she knew best to rid the thoughts of negativity and move forward with hope and confidence.
One thing you can do is surround yourself with positive people. Being around people who love you and care for you or even just in a healthy positive where you may know no one, can get you back to a better place mentally. Positivity is contagious. This can result in the next step, turning your thoughts around. It is alright to think that there will be challenges, but the great news is that when you believe that you can overcome those challenges, and you do – you will be stronger and wiser in the end than you were before.
A simple step to decreasing these heavy negative feelings is smiling. Do what you know will make you smile, or even giggle. It is truly amazing what smiling and laughing can cure. Smiling is another contagious act; when there is someone smiling at you, it is probably going to take more energy to keep that straight face than to smile back and appreciate the generosity. This brings us to the next step which is doing something nice for someone else. When we perform acts of kindness as humans, we tend to feel a sense of gratitude for what we have in our own lives. Whether it is community service, donating to shelters, or simply helping your elders when you see them struggling up the stairs, everything counts. It feels good to help others.
Music is always a great way to feel our feelings. If we listen to sad, slow songs, chances are we will be sad; if we listen to happy, upbeat songs, chances are we will be happy. If you are upset, listen to one of your favorite feel good songs and enjoy it. Reading can also sooth our worried souls. Pick up a good book, maybe a book of positive quotes or self-help, motivational book and read. Read on to remind yourself that no one is perfect and we all need a pick-me-up every once in a while. Be easy on yourself, you are not alone. It is equally important to understand that while we accept help in times of need, we must take some responsibility as well. You have choices and you have to be strong enough to know that and to eventually make the necessary changes.
Last but certainly not least, take a yoga class or meditate. Meditation calms your mind and body and lets you rejuvenate your soul as if you were to receive a fresh start. The beauty in this is that we do get a fresh start every single day that we wake up. We must think of the good in our lives and learn to appreciate them every day. If we see the good and truly appreciate them, it is much easier to deal with the bad as it comes. We all have the power within us to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off, we just have to find it and believe.